Love Relationships: The Need for Relationship ED (Relationship Education)

WHAT'S UP BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN?

Aside from men with evil or just selfish intentions toward women such as players, pimps, and PUAs, how many men know what they're doing when they're dealing with women?

Not that many I would guess.  Women are far more relationship oriented people than are most men.  Men are not good at even communicating with women as potential lover candidates. Women get frustrated at this.   

BEGINNING OF FRUSTRATION

They’ve been trained by society that men should be the aggressors but men don’t aggres well and then things fall apart because so many of us men relate so poorly to women – hard feelings result in the hearts of men and the women find this annoying.

To me at least, I would say that this interpersonal alienation is so unnecessary but will persist unless men are trained to relate to women effectively, to communicate with women effectively.  So many of us men are so poor at interpreting body language cues that women give out. 

LACK OF REQUIRED SOCIAL SKILLS IN MEN

So many of us men are poor at initiating even small talk with women. So many of us men are so unsophisticated and clumsy at dealing with women as potential love candidates that women get sore at us and we get sore at women.

It shouldn’t have to be this way at all.

POSSIBLE SOLUTION

What it takes to reverse this problem is relationship education for both men and women.  For men and women to relate well to one another rather than give up on the opposite sex is for both genders to get training or education to get to know each other, to know what the other sex expects from us, and what is realistic for us to expect from the opposite sex. 

I don’t think we men want to perceive women as enemies of ours. I don’t think that women want us to see them as our enemies. 

PROOF OF THEN NEED FOR THIS SOLUTION

However, as one chat session with a woman I conversed online with once, taught me was that this woman expected men to know what she wanted from him without communicating her expectations to him from the onset.  She was married and divorced three times and co-habited with three more men. Not once, she said, had she communicated what she wanted from any of these six men.  No matter she was so frustrated and disappointed.  Men are not mind readers.  

THE REALITY ABOUT MEN

They need to be led and taught and validated and educated as to what to do when in a relationship with a woman.

So, it is the purpose of this article to communicate to all people out there that there few men who naturally handle themselves well in relationships. If men and women are to relate well enough with one another, then there have to be relationship schools and relationship courses designed to handle these challenges.

WARNING IF SOLUTION DISMISSED

The pornography industry has profited so well from this alienation between the sexes so much so that for many men, the only ideal women are those women that they meet in their imaginations and that real women are becoming more and more undesirable.  

When you have anti-marriage strikes, when you have misogynistic websites rising up and when you have groups like MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) in which the main concept is men renouncing further efforts to try to develop relationships with women and go it alone – believe me, Relationship Education is Needed and needed badly. 

The flip side is – do the women want us men to give up on them and go our own way without ever again trying to relate to them?  That’s the choice: educate us on how to relate to them or have us give up on them.

TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK

This is a challenge to women and men both to state your fifty cents worth in this topic.  We can make life better but it's not going to improve by itself as current trends in male-female relationships show.  I cannot do all the mental heavy lifting by itself.  This could be my last chance to help to try to make things better. Or maybe, they shouldn't get better. Lots of people like having excuses to fall back on when frustrated. I don't know.